Empowered Relationships

The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one with yourself, as every other relationship is a mirror of the one within.
No one in this world can ever fulfill your “needs”, your need to be loved, your need to feel appreciated or feel wanted. Only you can fulfill these needs, only you can make yourself whole, and only then can you share who you are with someone else. When you accept love that is “unconditionally offered” and not love that is “conditionally needed” then you can truly appreciate and be grateful for the opportunity to share love with someone else.

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Superstition

As I observe different events and people and how the acting-reacting cycle keeps repeating itself, I ask myself: What is the difference between superstition and truth?

The same event can be perceived in many different ways depending on the beliefs and background. Recently, I had a family that came to see me suspecting that their younger child was under some kind of “black magic spell” as he was experiencing some stomach and teeth pain that were preventing him from going to school. The very caring and loving parents had brought their son to different doctors and after many tests, they all pointed at him being a healthy kid. In the parent’s country of origin “black magic” is very real and when they came to see me they were expecting me to confirm their fears. At first, I did an energy session but I didn’t find anything alarming. The second time they came, I had a different approach. We explore the possibility of him being bullied at school, but that wasn’t it. As we moved deeper I saw a very charming little boy who had his parents around his finger and he learnt that if he cried and pretended to be sick he wouldn’t have to go to school and also as a way of getting many privileges.

Specially the mother was quite disappointed that his “little king” wasn’t under the effects of some negative projection but that he was an expert manipulator.

With this I’m not accepting or denying the existence of psychic attack. I feel the question to ask is a very different one: Who is in control of your life in any giving situation? The fear of being attacked or the courage to  learn and better yourself?

Things happen in life, some are judged as good and others as bad. When I look at any event as an opportunity to learn to know a part of me or to empower a part of me it’s then when I’m looking at life as a symbol to self-mastery.

In my opinion superstition is created from a place of fear where we believe that somehow we are at danger or that we are going to be attacked by someone or something. Superstition brings us to a place of disempowerment and victim frame of mind.

Truth, in the other hand, offers empowerment and a desire to learn and move forward.

Everything is easy…

I had the perception that everything was difficult, and of course that belief manifested in a very difficult  life. From childhood that’s all I heard and saw “Life was hard” One day I contemplated the notion “what if things were easy?” After a few months of “self brain washing” my perception of life started to amazingly change. 

In my experience the first thing I had to do to move away from a Self-created Difficult World into a Self-created Easy World was to move away from EXPECTATIONS. I didn’t realize that I was so hard on myself and that somehow a false sense of perfection was ruling my life.

I learnt to move away from EXPECTING Perfection into ACCEPTING Perfection. I learnt that every single moment is perfect as it is. In this moment I’m as perfect as I can be. This change of thought brought me great peace and I could see the world through different eyes.

ACCEPTING means to let everything flow without judgment. I learnt that there is no good or bad feelings. I learnt the language of my emotions which can not be understood by the mind but only by the heart. I learnt that my feelings are not who I am but what I feel. I learnt not to identify with my career or behaviour as they are just things I do. I let my thoughts to be free as there was no need to hold on to them any more. Somehow I started a journey of awareness into meeting the REAL I…

When the REAL I was allowed to be, I realized that life was quite easy in fact.